An empowered life is one where you are content and in control from moment to moment.
While such an idea might sound out of reach if you struggle with self-confidence, such a life can be yours if you choose.
I’m not making light of the situation. I understand the pain of low self-esteem and weakness, because I used to struggle with those very same issues.
I had to go through tremendous self-reflection and ego-work to “get past myself” and realize that I was ruining my own quality of life.
This simple guide is meant for anyone who finds it difficult to be confident and willful in their day-to-day lives.
Coming to terms with the fact that you are in control is both frightening and inspiring at the same time. It’s important that you take this journey, however, because it could be the secret to enjoying your life to the fullest.
The Benefits of Self-Empowerment
Someone who leads an empowered life is not afraid of challenges or stressful situations. They don’t get overwhelmed when things don’t “go their way.”
In fact they don’t think about everyday events in terms of “what’s supposed to happen” and “what’s not supposed to happen.”
This kind of perspective is just one of the natural benefits of a healthy, strong mind. If you find yourself burdened by stress and anxiety, indecisive in your everyday affairs, weak-willed, fearful, or overly shy, I want you to know that you can overcome these obstacles.
Not only can you overcome them, you can do so happily and at ease.
Some of the other benefits of empowerment include:
- Less fluctuations in mood
- Relaxed thinking patterns
- More natural energy (stress actually robs you of energy)
- Reliance on logic rather than emotions
- Able to control and direct the course of your life
- Agile and flexible mind, can adapt in the face of new information
- Apt to learn more, absorb information
- Improved self-esteem
- Easier to empathize and connect with others
When you live with empowerment, the world is yours. You aren’t dwelling on the past or worrying about the future because you understand the nature of life and who you are.
Simple Steps Toward Self-Empowerment
I’m going to outline a few key steps that you will want to take if you intend on living a more mindful, purposeful life, but it’s worth noting here that everyone grows and learns in their own time.
I was presented with this same information years before I was ready to internalize it. Don’t pressure yourself into “becoming empowered,” and then thinking you failed because “it didn’t work.”
Give your Self the necessary space and room to grow. When it is time for you to wake up, it will be time.
How to Empower Yourself Step-by-Step
If you are ready to use your force of will and change your life, these simple steps are as good a place as any to start.
Keep in mind, there is nothing new here that hasn’t been said by plenty of sages and mindfulness experts in the past. But like me, you may not have been receptive to other teachers or perhaps this is your first time hearing about such techniques. Either way, know that this is ancient wisdom, simply repackaged in a more digestible form.
- Learn to differentiate between your ego and your Self.
- In times of stress or fear, remind your Self of your power.
- Understand that unpleasant emotional states and negative thoughts are your responsibility to control.
- Act with great care in all that you do.
These steps, while simple on the surface, can transform your life in ways you can’t imagine. Let’s take a quick look at each one.
First, it’s essential that you learn how to tell the difference between your ego and who you really are. This was the big turning point for me, as it is for most who Walk the Path.
Whenever you find that your thoughts are running or if a song gets stuck inside your head, take a moment to self-reflect on these thoughts. The “thoughts” are a product of the ego, whereas the spark of awareness doing the observing is You.
It’s important to make this distinction because you will come to realize that there are multiple layers of your mind and not all of them have “your” best interests at heart.
In fact, most of us have overdeveloped egos that are so out of control by adulthood, these mental wardens will actually sabotage us at every opportunity.
The next point involves remembering who you are in times of distress.
Whenever you lack confidence or feel as though you don’t have control, give your Self a mental nudge. You are the one calling the shots, and it’s you who is responsible for your own happiness and state of being, no one else.
Get out of the mindset that other people and events have to cater to you to make you feel OK. That’s not how life works, and you’re just setting your Self up for disappointment.
Which brings us to step 3, the realization that you and you alone are responsible for your own “house.”
By this I mean, if you are experiencing negative thoughts and emotions, these are yours to deal with and clean up.
No matter how comforting the idea is for our egos that other people are responsible for the emotions you are feeling, this is an illusion that will hurt you every time.
Emotions, and the thoughts that they are attached to, are yours. You are the only one who can control them, vanquish the, hold onto them, or ignore them.
No one can “make you feel” something. This is pure ego-talk that will keep you in chains the rest of your life.
It’s impossible to live an empowered life if random people on the street have this kind of power over you.
Snap out of this mindset by practicing mindfulness and detaching from your ego. Once you wake up to the reality of who you are, this kind of behavior not only looks unappealing, you realize how grossly toxic it is.
The last step you want to take is treating life with reverence.
No matter what it is that you are doing, do it with zest.
In the beginning, this might feel a bit forced. However, as you awaken your force of will and realize that it is you who is in control, you come to see the beauty and value of life and that even the most simple things deserve your attention and care.
Pay attention to how you move and act throughout the day. Are your footfalls loud and obnoxious, or are they gentle and reverent? Do you unconsciously slam doors and make noise wherever you go, or do you move in contemplative silence?
You will get more out of live if you move mindfully and take your actions more seriously.
When you act with mindful concern for everything around you, it imparts great control. Not only do you become far more aware of your own thoughts and actions, you tend to make better decisions, which then reflects onto the world around you.
How Willpower Opens Doors
When you are empowered, you are strong. This isn’t necessarily a physical strength, it comes from the mind.
You have to cultivate a strong mind in order to get what you want out of life. No one ever teaches you this, you just have to kind of learn.
If you have gone through life up to this point and have dealt with confidence issues, anxiety, fear, self-esteem issues, and other feelings of weakness, it’s because you were never taught how to control your mind.
What should be a key point of our education system goes pretty much unspoken for our entire lives. No one talks about force of will, almost as though it were some kind of occult science.
The truth is, historically, the means of cultivating of strong willpower has only been known to very few. Whether this is on purpose or through sheer coincidence is a topic for another discussion, but the point is that very few of us actually understand and use the power of will.
The single most important thing you can do to improve the quality of your life is to learn how to detach from your ego so you can better direct your force of will. It is the secret to unlocking so many doors.
Be patient with your Self, but at the same time, take your empowerment seriously. Again, no one can “make you” feel empowered, it is up to you to do that.
The founder of Digital Sages, Matt has an extensive background in self-mastery and has authored several books on the subject. His goal is to demystify important esoteric subjects and help people transform their lives through self-awareness and personal empowerment.