New Year’s resolutions don’t work. If you want real change in your life, you have to keep your power in the Now and not in some abstract goal.
2020 is upon us in less than a week, which means it’s not only the start of a new year, but a new decade.
However momentous an occasion you may think this is, it’s really just another day.
If you are trying to improve your life, make positive changes, and achieve your goals, ditch the idea of “New Year’s resolutions” altogether.
It’s an awareness trap.
There’s a reason why the overwhelming majority of these “resolutions” fail.
Let’s discuss why, and also go over some ways to bring positive change into your life that actually work.
Future Change is Just Wishful Thinking
Any time you tell yourself that on x day you’re going to do y task, you’re engaging in wishful thinking if you don’t first develop a plan.
You can say “I’m joining a gym on January 2nd,” but this doesn’t mean anything.
Even “I will lose weight in 2020,” is a silly resolution.
Where’s your plan? How will you accomplish this? What are your obstacles and how do you overcome them? Who is going to help you?
It’s deeper than this though. Remember, the ego doesn’t want you to change. Yet, most of these hollow resolutions come from the ego part of our mind.
What does this tell you?
Wishful thinking is just the ego’s way of making itself believe that it will change for the better, without actually having to do anything.
Just the act alone of saying “I will lose weight,” or “I will give up smoking,” is like decadent cake for the ego. It makes you feel good and gives you a sense of purpose and accomplishment even before you’ve stepped a single foot in the gym.
This is also dangerous because this part of the mind can’t distinguish between thought and reality. The second you make a hollow promise to yourself, the twinge of accomplishment that comes with it creates the same mental affect as if you had already accomplished the goal itself. Your mind can’t tell the difference.
So the result is that you feel like since you already made a resolution, you don’t even really have to accomplish the goal. The act of making the resolution, for your ego, was enough.
It’s your willpower and your awareness that helps you accomplish goals set in the future, but if you lack these components, it is likely that creating a resolution will result in very little.
Focusing on the Future Takes Away From the Now
You can only expend so much of your awareness into the future before the present begins to suffer.
This is because every time you obsess over something, you give it energy.
The worst thing you can do is conjure abstract “objectives” for some time in the future without any strategy or direction.
By their very nature, these kinds of mental projections require personal energy to create and sustain. They are thought-forms, they wouldn’t exist without you constantly thinking about them.
You might think that creating an abstract idea or “resolution” is harmless. How could it take away your energy?
This comes from a general lack of understanding as it pertains to subatomic energy and its relation to the mind.
Thoughts have just as much validity as physical matter, they simply exist on a higher density of vibration.
However, thoughts are far easier to conjure than physical matter, which requires atomic processes to come into being.
Abstract thought-patterns that have no connection to other subatomic constructs rely on their creator to exist.
Every time you invent abstract possibilities, you infuse them with your being. A part of “you” is in every thought you project.
We do this thousands of times a day, with little consequence. The problems arise when you create a lingering thought-form that takes away from your attention.
What starts as a “resolution” quickly turns into a burden, as you find your own mind guilt-tripping you into living up to the expectations you set for yourself. The attention that is given toward this thought-form also leave you mentally fatigued and possibly even full of anxiety.
Unless you go in with a set of plans, a resolution can quickly backfire, and often does.
You lose effectiveness in everything that you do when you trade away your power to be in the now.
Stop Trying, Start Doing
At the end of the day, no one needs to know what changes you are planning to make in your life. You also don’t need to set arbitrary goals, like “2020 is my year.”
A year is just an arbitrary designation of time that has no baring on your life or the grand scheme of things whatsoever. You can transform your life in an instant if you want, it simply takes the willpower and awareness to change.
Progress on that change is also something you can’t force. What may take one person a month to accomplish may take you two years.
You can’t define life changing decisions on the whims of what you think might be good for you in the future. You need to stop talking and start acting.
If you need to set a resolution for yourself, there’s a good chance you lack willpower and self-control.
That’s what you need to be working on then, and not abstract goals like weight loss and a better job.
Begin taking up deeper meditation and physical training such as martial arts or weight lifting. Learn to detach from the ego and develop your will to power.
You will find that with the right conditions, you won’t need to make arbitrary goals, because your ability to manifest will be in perfect harmony with the choices you make.
One last word about making resolutions and parading them around for others to hear.
This is the worst thing you can do.
Remember, ideas are thought-forms and have an existence all their own, apart from your mind.
Every time you speak about these abstract, weak goals, you allow the energy of other people to attack and deconstruct the energy you are putting forth.
This is why sages do their work in secret. Tell no one about your craft or your hustle.
Work in silence and let the results speak for themselves.
The last thing you need is an already weak and directionless thought-form getting torn apart by the doubt of naysayers.
There’s literally nothing good that can come of making arbitrary resolutions and then parading them around on social media. You’re only setting yourself up for lukewarm results.
Be more aware.
Here’s to your success in 2020 and beyond!
The founder of Digital Sages, Matt has an extensive background in self-mastery and has authored several books on the subject. His goal is to demystify important esoteric subjects and help people transform their lives through self-awareness and personal empowerment.