No hesitation, no excuses.
If you want to take charge of your life, you have to know how to think.
Right now, this very moment, you have to start owning your actions and taking responsibility for the energy you put out.
You want to transform your life and enter the driver’s seat?
Own what you do. Own what you think. Claim absolute responsibility for everything you are and everything that exists around you.
How the Ego Takes Away Your Control
You might find this difficult, because of the pushback you experience from your ego.
Taking control of your life means discarding the ego for conscious awareness. The ego will fight to preserve itself as you take the necessary steps forward to direct your life.
This is to be expected. Many of us go our entire lives subconsciously shirking responsibility. We are programmed by society to unload blame onto others.
It doesn’t matter what your situation is. What your goals are. What hardships you’ve faced. Who has hurt you.
None of it matters. Own that shit.
Every last action you have ever taken, every mistake you’ve ever made, every untruthful or angry thought, every terrible idea, own all of it.
Do not let your ego rule over you. Do not be guilt-tripped by your own subconscious into believing that your fate rests in the hands of others, or that you are at the mercy of anything other than your own choice.
These are illusions.
It doesn’t matter what you personally believe about this subject. I’m telling you right now that if you don’t take responsibility for your thoughts and actions, you will never progress, and you will never wake up.
This includes the nastiest crap you’ve stuffed into the darkest hallows of your mind.
It was you. It was all you. It was always you.
Don’t like it? Tough.
Directing Control of Your Life With Mental Power
Mental strength opens many doors, enabling you to discard the ego and take control.
If you want to wake up and take control of your life, you first have to stake your claim on your own mind.
More than likely, you have some internal house cleaning to do in order for you to truly “wake up.” Your ego has been allowed to run around unchecked your entire life. For many people, it has grown out of control.
You will need to adopt a mindfulness routine that includes awareness meditation, breathing exercises, and visualization techniques in order to connect with Self and regain control.
We’re here to break the chains.
You must take absolute responsibility for what you have said and done in your life. Your thoughts and actions, the lies and gaffes.
Embrace what you are. Sink into the knowledge that what has happened, has happened, that the past cannot be changed. You have no power or dominion to do so.
But the future, that is in your control.
If you are strong enough that is.
The Power of Choice (Using Force of Will)
Everything in life is based on choice, and you cannot make proper choices if you are acting from a place of weakness and illusion.
This is the first step you must take in order to be a strong, awakened individual, both mentally and physically.
Endless personal suffering is caused when you give away your power to choose.
To take charge of your life is to see through the illusion of the ego and utilize your force of will to generate change.
Your reality will mimic your subconscious capacity to handle choice, until you find yourself in dead-end situations that make you feel stressed, angry, and cut off from everyone and everything.
I see this in a lot of older individuals, who do nothing but complain about their lot in life, blame others, fly into fits of rage at the slightest inconvenience, and who engage in constant emotional extortion.
They have given up their ability to choose, and thus have become eternal victims of perceived happenstance, unable to generate their own energy.
This is not the Path you want to walk on.
Own what you’ve done, who you are, your thoughts and actions.
By responsibly owning your ability to choose, can you begin dictate the direction of your life.
This is the first step toward waking up and taking control.
There is much work to be done yet.
This article was adapted from Chapter 1 of Fearless Living, my new book on strengthening the mind and living your best life according to Hermetic Principles. If you’re interested in reading further, the book is available here. It covers everything from overcoming trauma, relieving stress through meditation, mastering the breath, and the mental nature of reality. If you’re looking for a path toward a deeper understanding of life, or simply a quick guide on self mastery, you’re going to want to grab this book.
The founder of Digital Sages, Matt has an extensive background in self-mastery and has authored several books on the subject. His goal is to demystify important esoteric subjects and help people transform their lives through self-awareness and personal empowerment.