You cannot overcome trauma unless you understand it.
Trauma comes back as a reaction not a memory since we are dealing with the realm of the subconscious.
By knowing the nature of a thing, you gain power over it. I will show you how to understand and process your trauma with a simple perspective shift.
How Trauma Manifests
The popular view that those with trauma are haunted by traumatic memories that they constantly dwell on isn’t actually all that accurate or common.
Most often, those who have suffered trauma are consumed by it. Their trauma becomes them, in the sense that their traumatic reactions define their personality, habits, and even identity.
One of my mentors once told me that trauma was very misunderstood in our society, because the energy component was missing.
Trauma, in its most basic sense, is unprocessed energy.
This energy gets locked into your etheric body, a spiritual malignancy like a cancer. There it lingers, a thought-form that defines the way you act.
One reason why many psychiatrists have trouble healing trauma in their patients is because they approach it from a physical or emotional standpoint, rather than a metaphysical one.
You cannot ask someone to recall a bad experience or traumatic event and expect them to “come to terms with it” without first helping them to deal with the fact that they identify with their trauma.
This is what causes such emotional backlash.
Trauma comes back as a reaction because what we’re dealing with is more than psychology, it’s metaphysics.
We are what we dwell on – our thoughts dictate our overall vibration. Those who are suffering through the effects of trauma are trapped in a low vibrational state, and this is what causes the feelings of depression, anxiety, moodiness, anger, and other unproductive emotional states.
Trauma manifests as pessimism, negative outbursts, problem avoidance, and destructive habits.
Your Reactions Reveal What You’re Holding Onto
The key to healing trauma is recognizing that you have to process the energy in order to escape it.
For instance, a traumatic experience will often lead to a behavior loop that continuously puts the person suffering from trauma in the same situations as what caused the issues in the first place. This is the energy trying to balance itself.
You have to reconcile with all of the choices you make.
One of the hardest parts of what I refer to as the “trauma loop” is realizing that the pain and suffering comes not from the event itself but from the reaction to it.
Two people can go through the exact same experience. One may come out completely unscathed mentally and emotionally while the other becomes deeply traumatized.
This scenario alone reveals the subjective nature of trauma. It’s a battle of the mind, of energy.
The memory of trauma is meaningless – since most of us can remember these experiences. We can replay them over 100 times in our minds but nothing happens.
What then are you supposed to do in order to heal?
Rather than look at the memories, you must look inward at your Self. Your reactions reveal the path to healing.
Learning How to Let Go of Trauma
If you never heal from what hurt you, there can be no evolution of Self.
Trauma is limitation made manifest.
If trauma comes back as a reaction not a memory, you must study your reactions in order to heal.
- Watch what you say to people. Do your words create conflict or put you in scenarios where your pain will be amplified?
- Pinpoint areas of attachment and work on letting them go. You may be attached to certain people that make you feel safe, for instance, but that safety is an illusion because it distracts you from making life-positive choices. You might even be attached to your identity as a “trauma sufferer” – the hardest pill for some of us to swallow.
- What thoughts run through your head when you go throughout your day? Are there thoughts of resentment, anger, jealousy? Is there a “poor me” mindset cropping up? Analyze your thoughts and practice focusing on positive sentiment even in the face of negative circumstances.
- Make peace with your past. Spend a little time every day forgiving your Self and anyone or anything involved in the traumatic event. This can be difficult, but will help you take back your emotional health and ultimately the frequency you vibrate at.
Talking About Trauma Makes it Worse
If your only method of dealing with your trauma is talking about it (friends, family, doctors, doesn’t matter), you are going to have a very long and difficult road.
Talking about trauma almost always makes it worse.
There might be short-term feelings of emotional release and comfort, mostly derived from the ego. However this is not healing and shouldn’t be mistaken as such.
Keep in mind that most of psychiatry was cooked up by complete yahoos that have no understanding of the mind or metaphysics – the practice of talking about trauma can actually create an even deeper “groove” in the mind, reinforcing the trauma bond and identity that associates with the trauma.
In other words you adopt the trauma as an identity, learning to come to terms with it and accept it as who you are rather than processing the energy and letting it go.
This means you will keep repeating the same cycles and may even carry this trauma with you into the next life.
The Trauma Cure
If left unprocessed, the energy responsible for unresolved trauma can linger through our entire lives, dictating our thoughts and behaviors. This creates a negative feedback loop and poor life experience.
To break out of the cycle, self-reflection is essential.
The truth is that trauma comes back as a reaction not a memory so replaying the same mental images and bathing in a pool of self-pity will absolutely not give you the healing you are looking for.
Our trauma healing exercises guide is a great resource for those who are interested in a trauma cure that works.
The most important thing to remember is that a person who has healed their trauma doesn’t dwell on it. The event no longer defines them, influences them, or colors their world in any way. There is no resentment, anger, or regret over the event.
Rarely does this kind of healing occur with traditional psychiatry, as the field isn’t actually equipped to deal with the intricacies of the mind and energy.
Look inward. The answers are there.
The founder of Digital Sages, Matt has an extensive background in self-mastery and has authored several books on the subject. His goal is to demystify important esoteric subjects and help people transform their lives through self-awareness and personal empowerment.